I’ve been trying to figure out how to say this gently, but to be honest… I don’t think gentle is going to cut it. I have to be blunt, because that’s the only way the message is going to get across and even then, I know it probably won’t.
Unless your happen to be the guy that sleeps in the same bedroom as me, I do not care or want to know what you do with your penis in your spare time, how it reacts to stimuli or really… anything about it. I also don’t care if you find me attractive or what you might like to do to me if you got the chance. That’s a fantasy for you. It’s not appropriate for you to tell me these things. Period. Comments of this nature will be deleted without notice.
It really does pain me to have to make that proclamation after only have written one blog post. I’m also disappointed with myself that I let a comment that I found to be in poor taste totally knock the wind out of my sails in regard to getting the ball rolling with this fledgling blog… and I’m mildly kicking myself for not having a strongly stated preference in regards to comments in that first blog post… but, hey… live and learn.
For me, it comes down to an issue of consent. When you cone to this blog, you consent to read about sexual themes of my choosing and I expect that if you have something to say in response that you do so in a respectful and mature manner. Just because I’m writing about sex explicitly in a post does not give you permission to be equally explicit. Just because I’ve written about sex doesn’t give you permission to say whatever you want to me. It does NOT mean that I have asked for it.
As a woman posting anything on the Internet regarding sexual desire, erotic imagery, etc… you open yourself up to receiving lecherous comments. Sometimes those comments were probably a well intentioned attempt to relate to the original post that stepped over the line into inappropriateness because some people have a poor sense of boundaries and sometimes the comments are just flat out objectification with no regard to the fact that the person on the other end of the Internet is an actual human being. While standard operating procedure is to delete and ignore, it doesn’t diminish the fact that receiving such comments is uncomfortable and intimidating.
Bottom line? Think before you post. Believe me, it isn’t that hard.